A little while ago I posted a photo with 3 magical words: You Are Enough. And when I let those words sink in, it was as if a wave of ease and joy came over me. I had been stuck in a period of pushing so hard for things, wanting to do more, wanting to do better. And it sucked the joy right out of me.
But what would happen if I knew I was enough?
It might strike you as a strange thing that as a coach I’m arguing for ‘Enough’. Coaching is often about taking your life to the next level, more planning and goal-setting, improving mindset, working on affirmations, building dreams and taking things to the next level. And I truly believe from my gut that this is all very valid and relevant.
But I am also arguing for enough.
To know that we are enough just as we are. With all our strengths and beauty, but also all our imperfections and flaws. Because life in and of itself is imperfect, and perfection is unachievable. Because imperfection shows us the way to better – not because it fills up a gap in our worthiness, but because we want to do the very best we can because we know we are capable of amazing things. Just as we are.
To know that we have enough knowledge, wisdom and courage to take the next step. That we don’t have to wait until we’ve read the next book, or have figured out the entire plan. That we can learn along the way, that we will stumble and sometimes fall. And that we have everything we need within us to get up again and continue on our way.
To know that we have done enough. That working crazy hours and having a manic schedule is not the sign of a thriving life. That we are addicted to busyness as a measure of success and that we hide our exhaustion to be and do more. A call for ending our day knowing that we have done enough. To do the things that feed our soul, to enjoy spending our time with friends and loved ones – not as another thing on the to-do list but because we truly want to.
To know that we have enough. Enough money, enough success, enough friends. That we are grateful for that which we have in our lives now. To stop looking for more, the next best thing, because that search is insatiable. Gratitude is a miracle worker in knowing that we have enough and the biggest magnet for attracting more.
To know that there is enough for everyone to go around. That we don’t have to come from a place of scarcity but from a place of abundance where we share freely and openly. That we recognize the humanity within each and every one of us, and we welcome all in our lives.
So the next time when you feel you should do more, be more, or want more, take a moment to really check in with yourself. To tell yourself
I am enough.
And then ask the question, is this something I really want to do because it lights me up or am I doing it out of fear that I am not enough?
Because if it’s the latter, it’s an endless race that you can never win. It crushes our soul to want to be more, to be better because it will never end.
Enough is not about complacency. It’s not about sitting back and waiting for things to happen. But it’s about the way we do things. When you know you are enough, in comes joy, in comes gratitude and satisfaction, in comes abundance and so much more than you ever thought you were capable of.
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